In this article, we are going to help you with the writing and delivering a Funeral Speech For A Funeral.
A funeral speech is also commonly known as a Funeral Eulogy.
Before we enter the body of the article we have made available for you the following to help you along the way.
The first timesaver for you is How to write a eulogy in six easy steps.
The second is to help and guide you through the confident way of actually delivering the funeral speech/eulogy. It will guide you in the ways of public speaking.
Preparing a funeral speech is one of the most difficult tasks anyone can be entrusted with. However, if you have been given the task to write a funeral speech for a loved one, it is only fair to do it in respect to the deceased.
A lot of our clients will also include a Short Funeral Poem within the text of the Eulogy.
It is likely that you shared a close relationship with the deceased and thus the family had entrusted you to commemorate them in the best way possible.
Funeral eulogies are usually prepared by a parent, close relative or a best friend to the deceased. This is because to be able to pay respects to a loved one, you must have known them well and spent some quality time with them.
A funeral speech is part of the funeral service and its main purpose is to celebrate the life of a loved one who has passed away. In the speech, the writer usually uses praising words in remembrance of the deceased, as well as their life achievements and accomplishments.
To be able to write a good funeral speech for a loved one, you must decide on the topic you want to reflect on. This could vary from their personality, the theme of the funeral and how they passed on.
For instance, if the deceased had been a leader in the community, you might consider celebrating what they did to help others and their role in the society.
As you plan on paying your respects to the deceased, you will have to go back to the memories you shared when they were still alive. Even though you are grief-stricken, telling the audience what the deceased meant to you and the good times you spent together is essential.
In so doing, the audience is able to reflect on those memories and create a character of the deceased, even if they did not know them well.
You will be giving them a chance to know the deceased as well as celebrate a lost life together. For instance, if you have been given the task of eulogizing your best friend, it is up to you to make sure that you pay tribute to them in a respectful manner, while telling the crowd who he/she meant to your life.
The truth is, no one is usually prepared to leave this earth, and even when we watch our loved ones in the hospital fighting for their lives, a part of us just cannot let go.
A funeral speech may be a way to tell them goodbye, the words that you never got the chance to tell them when they were with us.
For instance, you may have planned to go for a road trip together but death took them away before you could do it, and maybe you had not seen them in days.
Having the chance to say goodbye in a funeral speech may bring you comfort and closure to you, even as you grieve.
A funeral eulogy is also a good way to remember the life of the deceased.
You can do this through sharing short stories and anecdotes that you shared with the deceased. Not only will you be portraying their personality to the audience but also remembering and honouring their memories.
However, a funeral speech is not always about grieving and expressing sadness over the loss of a loved one. It can also be a moment to re-live the deceased’s memories, share some of their jokes and passions.
This way, you will be expressing the impact they had on your life as well as those of others. It is important to keep in mind that the words used in a funeral speech are what the audience will remember of the deceased’s life.
To be able to commemorate the life of a loved one, you need to decide on the memories to include and which ones to live out. In order to sort this out, you will have to decide on the topic of the funeral speech.
You cannot be able to decide this on your own and thus it is essential to source ideas from other family members. It will also help you gain an insight into how the family would want the deceased to be remembered.
Once you have decided on the topic of the speech, you can go ahead and ask the family members to share the memories they would like included in the funeral speech.
Friends may also be able to contribute in efforts to create the deceased’s persona based on past memories. By opening the door for suggestions, you will be making sure that everyone gives their views on how they remember about the deceased.
Funeral Card Messages.
The funeral cards sent on the passing of the deceased can also give you inspiration on the personality of the deceased.
These cards are usually sent by friends and people who knew the deceased, mostly paying tribute to the deceased.
The memories and the words of encouragement in these cards and condolence letters are a good source of information while preparing a funeral speech.
Your personal memories will be the greatest source of inspiration to write a genuine and comprehensive funeral speech for the deceased. This is because you will be able to re-live them in the speech and also help the audience see the deceased as they were when they were alive.
In order to make it comprehensive, it is important to decide the order to follow when writing a funeral speech. Chronological order is mainly recommended as it will take the audience through memories from when the deceased was young to their adult life.
To be able to do this, you should come up with a common factor that relates the deceased’s childhood to their adulthood.
For instance, if the deceased was a reserved person, you can focus the speech to talk about how they portrayed this character in their life. A chronological order is also important to help you with the flow of the speech, to avoid jumping from one fact to the other.
As much as you want to celebrate the deceased’s life, you should make sure that the funeral speech remains as factual as possible.
However, this does not mean that you should dwell on their challenges or negative personalities they may have had. In the case that the deceased had a challenging life, or may have been dealing with something like depression, you can talk about it with compassion, focusing on the efforts they had to fight it.
Instead of talking about the effects the illness had on the deceased, you can dwell on the tactics they used to fight it or avoid talking about that part of their lives in the funeral speech.
Other things to include in the Funeral Speech.
Some of the things that must be included in a funeral speech include when and where they were born, the names of their parents and how they grew up.
You may also talk about their education including where they schooled and when they finished. If they had a spouse, you may talk about how they met sharing a short story on that.
Their service to the community is also an important aspect as well as their life accomplishments and awards.
This will focus on introducing the deceased to the people who barely knew them.
The length of the funeral eulogy.
Once you have written the facts and memories to include in the funeral speech, it is time to consider the length.
Usually, a funeral speech will be allocated about five minutes by the funeral organizer. Keeping this in mind will help you choose the memories to include, depending on the length and the time allocated.
It is quite a challenge but it is necessary to include only the essential memories, based on the topic and theme you chose. Then you should develop a tone for the funeral speech, do you want it to be solemn?
Was the deceased a humorous person? Is your aim to celebrate the deceased’s life? These are some of the factors you should consider when deciding on a tone for the funeral speech for a lost loved one.
The theme of the funeral speech.
The theme of a funeral speech may vary depending on the content of the speech. Some people prefer to highlight the life history of the deceased including their achievements and experiences of the deceased’s life.
This mainly serves to go straight to the point and thus people do not dwell on grief so much. You may also choose to learn more about the shared memories of the deceased with family and friends.
This may involve a lot of emotions as people re-live the life of the deceased. A funeral speech can also serve to pay tribute and thus celebrating the legacy of the deceased through their accomplishments.
In some cases, religious funeral speeches are used, especially if the deceased was a believer. This is because a religious funeral service is conducted in a specific way, and the theme of the funeral speech is usually about the afterlife.
For instance, in Christianity, believers live knowing that death is not the end of life, and indeed, it is just the beginning of the eternal life as promised in the Bible.
This way, people may not be mourning the death of a loved one, in fact, they are usually celebratory about deliverance from the earthly suffering and onto the eternal life. In this case, you should tailor the funeral speech to the Bible readings or by talking to the clergy in charge of the funeral service.
Once you have settled on the funeral speech and its content, you should focus on how to deliver the speech. The fact is, you are grieving and re-living the memories of the deceased on their funeral service can open these wounds.
To be able to deliver a funeral speech effectively, you should practice the speech with a member of the deceased’s family. This way, you will be able to confirm the credibility of the details included in the speech as well as make yourself conversant with the content.
You can alternatively give out the eulogy to the family members in order to confirm the details for accuracy. Below are some of the things you should consider to be able to deliver a funeral speech amidst your grief;
i) Practice the speech
Like any public speaking, delivering a funeral speech can bring about anxiety among other feelings. However, by practising the eulogy before the funeral service will help in that you are aware of what is in the speech.
In addition, when you are familiar with your content, you will not have to stick to reading, you will have the chance to make eye contact with your audience when you are delivering the funeral speech.
ii) Take short pauses
Once you have prepared the speech, you may consider putting commas where you want to take the pauses. By pausing, you will have the opportunity to compose yourself in case you get emotional when delivering a funeral speech. You will also give the audience time to reflect on the shared memories through pausing.
iii) Be audible
There is no doubt that you may be engulfed in your grief while delivering a funeral speech. However, it is important to be audible, and avoid speaking between sobbing.
This, however, does not mean that you should not cry if you feel the need to. If it happens, you should wipe your tears off and keep going. Having some water with you could help with this as well as taking short pauses while reading the funeral speech. It is important to be audible for everyone to hear you.
A funeral speech should reflect on the deceased’s life in a positive light. You should be able to recount the memories you shared as well as those with their family.
A funeral speech is the last thing people will remember of the deceased, and thus should remain respectful. It is important to remember the deceased the way they should have wanted to be remembered.