Death, much as it is a natural process, that we all know we shall succumb to one day, still leaves behind a trail of harm. One can never talk about having had enough of their loved ones, it is for this reason that we feel pain upon their demise. Lets take a brief look at how to cope with the death of a loved one.
We still yearn for more of them.
How to cope with the death of a loved one is a question that lingers on when now in your life you have to face those holidays without them, what of their birthdays? What about going back to work- what is the reason for working anyway, now that you have no one to enjoy its fruits with? How do you even start eating with an empty seat next to you? How do you even sleep knowing that you won’t wake up to hear them talk?
Moving on is difficult. It is easier said than done. Well, they say that you will go through the natural emotional tantrums of anger, pain, guilt, confusion, despair, hopelessness, and eventually heal according to your personality.
This may take a while for some people and a whole lot less for others. More-so in cases where the death was sudden, coping is usually even much harder, compared to those resulting from perhaps a chronic illness in which you might easily come to terms with the loss under the perception that they have found rest from the painful disease.
How to cope with the death of a loved one from a physical point of view.
People assume that death only strikes most of us emotionally. But no! It is an all-around thing that derails us emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and physically. The pain usually feels inescapable with its effects trickling down for a while. Below are some of the physical issues likely to be experienced by our physical beings.
Inability to drive.
We all know the enormous concentration required when driving, you need to steer the wheel in the right direction, always obeying the traffic rules and taking care not to hit pavements or pedestrians. With the death of a loved one, this concentration simply goes out of the window.
You will be engulfed in the confusion of trying to understand why death only had to take your loved one away, while also trying to figure out a future without them. Your minds become clouded with the memories following the times you had together.
It is therefore usually advised that you keep off the wheels until a time that you are back to your normal self. You can rely on the use of a taxi for mobility or have someone close drive you around, a friend or a more stable relative.
Loss of energy
The process of grieving and the emotional turmoil it brings alone consumes our energy. The other changes which lead to weakness are listed herein.
Lack of enough sleep; the human body is programmed in a way that it is required to have a time of sleeping during which all the body parts are subjected to resting for rejuvenation purposes. Therefore denying your body this much-needed rest only tends to overwork and make it weak.
The reverse may also happen where somebody just wants to sleep so that they are no faced with the reality of the death of their loved one. Oversleeping too leads to loss of energy.
Poor eating; we all need food to keep our energy levels up. The death of a loved one probably causes loss of appetite or the hustle and bustle of making funeral arrangements or any other required issues that need our attention often a times lead to a lack of time to eat well, subsequently leading to loss of energy.
Muscles weakening up; without enough sleep and proper eating, and generally moving around or still working out your body through stress, expect nothing more than the exhaustion of the muscles
General fatigue; all the mentioned things eventually lead to a person being weak both physically and emotionally.
You should take care to try to eat, sleep, and clean up so that the body gets the strength to cope with the stressful condition brought about by the loss of a loved one. You can perhaps let the people around you take care of certain roles like cooking, cleaning the house and taking charge of funeral preparations so that you have some time to rest your body.
Generally, the death of a loved one may come down with things such as headaches (probably due to the shock and accompanying stress), or maybe the flu and cough. Moreover, when subdued to stressful conditions, the immunity of the human body goes low making one prone to the mentioned illnesses.
Disruption of a person’s eating patterns, the portions and the types of food eaten all gang up to bring digestion problems like bloated stomach, diarrhea, constipation, painful stomach or even nausea.
Sometimes we will just experience some general pain all over the body, and things like a neck, back, joints, and muscles pain as a result of being shocked by the death of a loved one.
Such illnesses just like the emotional cycles, usually fade with time as one comes to learn how to cope with the death of a loved one.
You will experience this through things like not being able to sit or relax on one spot for long, being numb, sweaty, fidgety, and pacing up and down or stamping one’s feet and tapping fingers.
Where the symptoms become extreme, you can rely on a doctor to prescribe drugs. This is not to become your source of refuge though, as it can get addictive.
As is evident, the illnesses are brought about by the grieving process, so learning how to cope with the emotions naturally, frequently taking water, having enough rest and sleep, resultantly make them subside.
On can also seek the help of professional counselors who will assist and make the grieving process less cumbersome.