How To Write An Obituary and Include A Funeral Poem

Why Are Funeral Poems So Important

An obituary and obituary poems are used to make announcements regarding the death and funeral arrangements of a loved one or their memorial services to include their biographical data. One, therefore, needs to do this carefully, in a way that it will stick in the minds of the readers. This can be done on programs for funerals, social media groups, local newspapers, or even emails.


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Obituaries are published free of charge by newspapers, and as such, you can never be sure whether yours will be published. It relies on space availability for a particular day. They also tend to be longer than death notices.

Death notices also called paid obituaries, are a special type of obituaries that appear at the bottom part of an obituary page and are usually published a day after a person has passed on, and maybe continuously published several days after depending on the family’s financial ability. A death notice includes the deceased’s date and place of funeral service, details of those left behind education, and employment history.

Because they are mostly charged based on the number of words used, death notices tend to be shorter. You should, therefore, seek clarification on the amount you will incur should you decide to include an obituary poem.

The order to follow when writing an obituary is listed below.

The death of a loved one causes us such pain and writing their obituaries equally brings us emotions. The obituary should not only make their death announcements but also celebrate the lives they lived. However, how much grief it brings, this is a task that we will have to face immediately after the death of a loved one. I hope the notes below help in guiding you to write an effective obituary.


The death notice– obituaries start by announcing the passing away of an individual. This is done including information such as the full names of the deceased, or even their nicknames, the date and time they died, what caused their death, and their date of birth, and age at the time of death. A photo may be included, but this varies depending on the newspaper policies as to whether they allow for pictures, at what cost, and whether you are able to pay the extra cost.

The biography– Here, you need to include the deceased’s place of birth, birthday, and possibly their guardians or parents’ name.

The deceased’s legacy- this includes such things as their outstanding personality, what they valued, how they positively influenced the people around them, and how they lived their lives. This comprises the most important and relevant part of the obituary as one has to articulately enlist details that will make people celebrate and remember the deceased.

Those left behind- this is a list of very close relatives left behind by the deceased. In some circumstances, a list of those who already perished but were close to the deceased may also be included.
The funeral or memorial service- a clarification of the date and time of viewing, as well as the date, time and place where the funeral or memorial service shall be done. This also includes

Conclusion– This is where the obituary poem can be inserted. You can then sign off with a note of gratitude, perhaps following the immense support you have been receiving upon the death of a loved one.

Once done, you need to consider the place where the obituary shall be published.

Newspaper– it is the most popular for obituary publishing, and the prices and policies for doing this vary depending on a particular newspaper entity. You should, therefore, seek clarification from the newspaper of interest. Most obituaries are however charged based on the length, so try to make your brief by focusing on the important information.

Newsletters for one’s family– this works where the family is probably big and has a tradition of printing such newsletters for purposes of reunions, or communication information or ensuring their history has a means of being carried forward to their next generation.

Alumni type of news– works best for things like colleges, schools, and institutes. You will have the obituary published to enable ever one associated with given alumni for a particular set up, know of the passing on of one of their affiliates.


Trade, professional, or societal publications– this works especially if you or the deceased were a member of a particular trade union. It is a nice way of getting the colleagues to know about the demise of a relative to or one of their own, and get them to be involved in the funeral preparations. It also prepares people to avoid the weird aura that comes with walking to an office and asking for a person who is already deceased.

Online- this art of circulating obituaries via the internet is popular, and done through interfaces like Facebook and WhatsApp, or even email.
Since most obituaries are published in newspapers, take note of the following points prior to this.

The deadline– your obituary serves the purpose of requesting people to come for burial or memorial service. It is therefore important to note whether there is a deadline attached to it.

Charges- most death notices are paid for according to the words used, inquire to know how much you will be needed to pay.
Editing- it is common to have newspapers go through your writing to ensure it is error-free. Request to counter check the final copy to ensure that everything is written well too.

The period it takes- you will be paying to have your notice up. Enquire to find out how long the notice will run based on the fee you have paid, and find out if there is more than you are needed to pay should you wish to go an extra mile.

Extra services– most newspaper outlets require a person to pay an extra fee for things like photos, poems, extra messages, online guest books, history graphics or even messages, so it is wise to know in advance and plan appropriately.

The use of poems when writing obituaries has gained popularity, owing to the fact that there are a great number of obituary poems which are able to capture our feelings and relieve us of the hustle of looking for appropriate words during such painful moments.

Types Of obituary poems
Here at the Holy Bookshop, we have a number of obituary poems for your selection.

 Obituary poem for mother
 Obituary poem for father
 Obituary poem for son
 Obituary poem for daughter
 Obituary poem for brother
 Obituary poem for sister
 Obituary poem for uncle
 Obituary poem for auntie
 Obituary poem for cousin
 Obituary poem for grandma
 Obituary poem for grandpa
 Obituary Poem for a friend
 Obituary poem for a colleague


These funeral poems are further broken down into the religious and non-religious funeral and obituary poems, to include both traditional and contemporary ones. The religious obituary poems are meant for Christian believers while the non-religious obituary poems can be easily used by people of all walks. In both cases, however, a person can do alterations so that the poem suits their preferences.

We also have a collection of both long and short obituary poems, where the choice of length is solely yours. The message carried, either way will still serve the purpose of honoring the memory of the deceased.

How to select an obituary poem

The process of looking for a touching obituary poem, one capable of bringing the personality of the person you wish to honor, can be quite challenging, given that there is a massive selection to choose from. Add with the emotions associated with grief, and you may as well have an uphill task to contend with. Here are is our effective guide in settling for one out of our cute obituary poems.

The personality of the deceased- well, they are the reason you are out here looking for a poem, and so you should consider something that brings out their traits. There are obituary poems with themes that capture such.

This is the time to go for those religious obituary poems in case the deceased was a staunch believer, or perhaps consider a happy obituary poem in case the deceased was a jovial lad. What personality did your loved one possess?

Your audience- you also have a group of people whose emotions you wish to capture, and to whom you want the memory of the deceased to be engraved. Other than the personality of the deceased, the poems need to convey a touchy message to the audience, as done by all the selections we have at the Holy Bookshop.
Your feelings- choose a poem capable of connecting to your heart and expressing the way you feel about the deceased. You are the person feeling the pain as a result of their demise, the obituary poem should be able to comfort and console you while also show how much you loved the deceased.

In doing your selection, quietly go through the poems, to be able to understand the message they are trying to convey then analyze if they offer a perfect combination of the above 3 points.

Obituary Submission

Now that you have your obituary was written and the accompanying poem in place, how then shall you submit the obituary?
You can either do it by yourself, should you be are a relative of the deceased, or get the family’s representative to do it, or a close family friend.

Most newspapers indicate ways of reaching them, either through their website or emailing them or making phone calls upon which you will be directed.

Another channel is via funeral homes, which will contact the newspaper companies on one’s behalf- very handy considering the hustle that comes with making funeral arrangements and the relative grief that death brings. This relieves you of such errands, giving you some time to rest.

Another way is getting in contact with the deceased’s place of work to enable them to help one get in contact with such things as alumni, trade or societal publications.
Roles played by the best obituary poems

They comfort mourners- the best thing a poem should do during the loss of a loved one is soothe the souls of those left behind. Following the shock of hearing about the death of someone, these poems come in as the comforters, assuring everyone that all is well, and making the death seem like just a stage in life.


They celebrate lives of the deceased- well these poems, give us a reason to celebrate, and not just see death as an animal following the news of the demise of our loved ones. They are strategically placed at the bottom end of the obituary to bring a whole new perception to the death notices, making people see reasons to celebrate.

They encourage those left behind, it is never easy to move on, but kind words, like those found in obituary poems, can be a stepping stone by giving us hope and worthwhile reasons to soldier on and learn to live without our loved ones.

How to preserve your obituary

Well, we all want to keep memories of our loved ones, and obituaries can offer a way to do it. There are a number of things you can do to achieve a long-lasting obituary.

Filing the newspaper cut out- newspapers age, and as a result, change their color too, in worse cases, they tear up. First and foremost, laminate or keep it in a plastic folder. You can then file it and store the file in a dark place. Alternatives to this are keeping it neatly in a picture album or any random big book.

Online option- it is clear that what goes online can be retrieved even generations to come. Opting for a version of online obituaries is a nice way of ensuring their future availability. What’s more, you can save copies on your computer too, they will never age or get torn herein. Newspapers have affiliate online obituary websites which can be requested to make your online obituary, but you can also do this via social media sites.

Michael Grover

Following the death of my Mother, I decided to make this website. I found it difficult at the time to express the correct words to say at the service. However, I stumbled across an immediate download (available here) that enabled me to find truly memorable words.

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