I will never forget my mother’s last words. She told me that she loved me and wished me a nice trip. She also added that I needed to put my jacket on, which I scoffed at, not knowing that it would be the last conversation we would ever have.
I remembered this scene clearly and in detail, yet when I sat down to write a eulogy for her, I had nothing. I couldn’t think of appropriate words to say goodbye, and just citing her last words seemed like a cop-out. That’s when I ran into Do Not Stand At My Grave And Weep. The collection of mom memorial poems from daughters found in this book truly changed me.
What I thought would be just another pseudo-psychological self-help book of poems turned out to be my saving grace. Not only did it help me with my mom’s eulogy, but it also changed the way I looked at the whole situation.
Why Writing a Eulogy For Your Mother Is So Hard
I loved my mother. She was a saint. However, when she passed away, and I had to write a eulogy for her, I hit a wall. I could think of no words that would describe her or the way I felt about her.
But why is that?
Eulogies require you to think about your loss, which happened not that long ago. And obviously, that is not an easy task. In order to write it, I needed to evoke both good and bad memories.
Unfortunately, the bad memories dominated at that moment, as I was already in an understandably bad mood. But the thing is — I couldn’t use those bad memories to write my mother’s eulogy. So, I needed to focus on finding the positives, which was impossible at that time.
In addition, I felt pressured by everybody else, though they didn’t force me to write the eulogy. Even if they don’t admit it, everybody has their own expectations of what a eulogy should look like, especially if it involves a loved one.
But the truth is — it doesn’t matter what you’ll say in the eulogy. If it’s coming from a place of love, it’s good enough.
Do Not Stand At My Grave And Weep — Beautiful Funeral Poems, Quotes, And Sayings
Do Not Stand At My Grave And Weep is a collection of over 250 handpicked poems and sayings about losing someone you love. It features over 180 authors, including Shakespeare, Emily Brontë, and Seneca.
If you’re unable to express your emotions and write a sympathy letter, obituary or eulogy, you can turn to this book for help. It’ll motivate you and give you the inspiration you need in order to put your feelings on paper.
And if you can’t think of any words yourself, don’t worry. You can always use one of the poems as your eulogy. It doesn’t matter if they’re not your own words, as long as they mean something to you.
How Mom Memorial Poems From Daughters Helped Me
Aside from helping me write a beautiful eulogy for my mother, these poems also helped me stay strong. When I read the first few poems, I immediately identified with the writers. I could feel what they were feeling, and I realized that I wasn’t alone.
As much as reading these poems reminded me of my mother’s death, it also took my mind off it for a bit. In addition, it made me remember her in the best way possible, which was a big step forward in my healing process.
Obviously, this book alone was not enough to help me move on. I had to work hard so that I could call myself ‘happy’ again. However, these poems did give me a ground to stand on when I was falling into despair. Not only did they comfort me, but they also woke me up and made me realize a thing or two about life. And not just that — later on, they also helped me comfort others who had lost someone.
I have grown despite this horrible thing that happened to me. And as devastating as it might have been, I can now proudly say that I’ve moved on. When I read these mom memorial poems from daughters, I no longer feel pain. Now, they remind me of my mother and all the wonderful moments we had together.
Mother-daughter relationships are as complicated as they are pure. They almost inevitably involve a lot of fights and a lot of tears. My mother was there for me from the very beginning, and she loved me unconditionally no matter what I did. Even though we had a rocky relationship, I have to admit that she played a vital role in my life. So, when she passed away, I felt like a huge chunk of my life was suddenly gone.
I’d think about her for hours on end, worrying about how I didn’t appreciate her enough when she was alive. I was angry because I couldn’t change things, and a few minutes later, I’d get sad because there wasn’t anybody there who could tell me to put my jacket on. I was on this emotional roller coaster for a while, switching between sadness and anger.
Now when I look back at that period, I know exactly what was missing. I kept all of my anguish inside and ignored it. But when I came across mom memorial poems from daughters, I couldn’t help but cry my eyes out. And believe me — that was the best thing that could have happened to me.
At that moment, my mourning course took a new direction — a more useful one. It was about time I stopped wondering what could’ve been and started remembering what had actually been.
So, I started frequently reminiscing about my mother and all the wonderful moments we spent together. After a while, I felt nothing but love at the thought of her. Since she lives in my heart now, she doesn’t seem so distant. And every time I read these poems, she comes to my mind and greets me with a smile.