Unlike other poems, memorial poems are usually used during memorial ceremonies, and in other cases, during funeral services. Did you know that you could use more than one memorial poem at a memorial service?
You can select from different themes, and have separate individuals recite them to further add touch to the service.
Memorial services are sometimes held in the same capacity as a funeral service but are mostly held after a burial.
They are really helpful in the healing process following the demise of a loved one. They are a way of celebrating the lives they led and serve to bridge the gap that follows.
It is able to reminisce about the lives our departed loved ones once lived, capture the moments shared with us, and indicates what they will be remembered for.
It is also able to connect to our feelings and fill the vacuum left behind by their departure, while not bringing us sombre mods.
The length of your memorial poem.
There are long poems and equally short ones. The choice as to which one you choose largely depends on your preference.
Owing to the short nature of the short poems, they can equally be entrusted onto kids, if you want to have them recite, for they are not time-consuming to go through.
Short memorial poems can be turned into memorial notes that can be sent together with flowers to the bereaved during memorial services. They are able to get your message across in carefully selected words, which you might be lacking sometimes.
Who uses memorial poems?
These poems can be used by everyone, religious and non-religious alike, ranging from children to adults to the very elderly. They basically carry home messages of comfort, hope, strength and love pertaining to the departed and those left behind.
There are memorial poems suitable for the following groups of people;
Mothers- they relate to the roles played by moms and the tender love, which is now not there.
Fathers- relate dads roles of spearheading the family and the gaps felt in their absence.
Sons and Daughters- address what life was with them, and the pain brought about by not being able to see them grow and blossom.
Grandpas and Grandmas- of the sweet stories they used to tell, of the strong men and women they brought up, and how they used to pamper their grandchildren.
Aunties and Uncles- they talk about sweet times shared with the nephews and nieces, how their families are trying to cope with their demise.
Friends- such is directed to friends who are no longer there but were always present at all times, good and bad alike.
Brothers and Sisters- talk about sibling love and how much it is missed.
Such poems talk about the challenges brought about by raising kids without the other partner, or the loneliness that such deaths bring
Loved ones who are lost- they talk about the inability to find the disappeared people, with hopes of reuniting with them someday as deemed by fate, either in the after-life, or current life.
Based on that, you will find memorial poems being used in homes, churches, hospitals, mosques, gravesides, or any appropriate area.
As you have seen, the memorial poems may be directed to a particular gender or age group, per say young or elderly.
You can, however, interchange, should you love a specific poem that doesn’t suit your requirement. The themes and what they talk about stands to be equal, so they will not lose meanings.
Ways through which you can it more memorable:
By inserting the name of the deceased: you can insert the name of the departed loved one a couple of times in your selected poem. This makes your poem heads and shoulders over other poems and personalizes it too.
By turning them into songs: this you can do with the help of a music producer, or probably by yourself if you have a favourite and adaptable tune. This way, you might even find your self-cramming the poem, making it easier to remember whenever required.
By framing it: it involves printing out your poem and inserting it in a frame, after which you can always hang it in a favourite spot in your house.
How to organize your memorial service to include your memorial poem
Probably you have selected your memorial verse and do not know how to go about the service, this will be helpful. Well, you may also have your service in place, you can still go through to ensure all is well.
It is key that you check whether the departed someone had a wish regarding how the service shall be conducted, then adhere to it. Sometimes you may find that they wished not to have one held.
You can then brainstorm with the rest of the family members, or even friends to see the type of service that befits the deceased, either by virtue of what they would have loved, or what you guys like. Usually, the family members are very helpful in getting such details.
In your list of attendees, select the speakers, who will play the key role of carrying people through the legacy left behind, and the deceased’s way of life. Notify the chosen individuals early enough for confirmation’s sake, and do changes where needed.
For those who are able to undertake this role, determine and avail of what they want. You can then assign such things as memorial poems, readings and autobiography to the appropriate individuals at this juncture.
The types of memorial poems.
There are several types of service to choose from. One traditional one is where the memorial service takes the form of a funeral service, held immediately after death. The other type involves organizing for it a period after burial, which could vary from a couple of days after to several years later.
The memories that such events bring are times very sorrowful, and if that is the case, you can let someone else steer the whole process. You can also break down duties and delegate them to others, to duties, and brings a sense of togetherness in the healing process.
Do a list of the people to attend the service, prepare the invitations and send them. You will thereafter have a confirmation as to the number of people that are able to come.
Look for an appropriate location and venue, large enough to accommodate the people invited. If the deceased had a preference, go for it. Consider whether the family would prefer a religious or non-religious location.
Those attending from far places might require accommodation, which you must be careful to organize for.
Proceed to determine the number of items needed with reference to music, food, chairs or floral arrangements.
The floral arrangement could contain the deceased’s choice of flowers and colours. The music could also be chosen based on the deceased’s preferences where applicable.
Settle for an appropriate date and time that enables even those in the furthest of regions, to attend the service.
You can then make a public advert of the service, to be able to reach those who are not aware, commonly done through newspapers (obituaries), but can also be done via emails and phone calls.
Feel free to make arrangements as to how the day will be remembered, by providing things like a guestbook to be signed off or requesting the attendees to bring stuff that relates to the memories with the deceased.
If you wish for the service recorded, make arrangements with the service providers in this sector, or alternatively get a family member to do it.
Themes addressed by memorial poems
Death: memorial poems talk about death in a manner, as a circumstance that is not wished for, but which comes about bringing grief and pain. They talk about how irreversible it is, the struggles of coping with it thereafter. They proceed to illustrate how natural death is, thereby urging the bereaved to soldier on and enjoy life before their times come.
They convince that the departed did not wish for it, but that death just happened.
Grief: memorial poems talk about the deep pain that is felt as a result of the loss, using carefully selected and gentle words. Sometimes the pain becomes so unbearable that one wouldn’t wish to live without the deceased present.
But it also convinces the bereaved that death is quite natural, as much as the pains that come about, so they should let loose, feel free and endure the pain, for it shall soon fade away.
Nature: they grasp onto mother nature as the reason for the departure, thereby shifting emotions away from such things as the causes of death and the pain brought by it. This is really helpful in the healing process.
Such poems talk of men as part of a natural set up, and that the processes being experienced are normal to other natural beings or items too.
Spirituality: well, bereavement poems also touches on one’s spirituality, bringing about their belief in God, the author of life, and master of everything on earth, the bereaved and the departed in equal measure. They illustrate death as a way of God putting His people to rest, keeping them away from the troubles of the world, and taking them to another peaceful and beautiful life far beyond.
Courage: where the poems request the bereaved to be courageous enough to move on, for the deceased wouldn’t be otherwise proud. Usually, such poems connect to the heart while being read, instantly oozing feelings of a battle that has been already won. They convince the bereaved that they are strong enough to sail through the pain.
The poems equally talk about how courageous the departed was in his lifetime, convincing the people left behind to take on such a trait.
Time: memorial poems talk about the essence of time- everything happens in its accorded time, so is the death and the time it occurred. That time is the healer of the wounds resulting from their loss, and that in due time, if they too will depart, only to unite with them in the afterworld.
The poems give encouragement that the bereaved are going through times of pain, and will eventually go through times of happiness.
Where would you get the best memorial poems?
Here at The Holy Bookshop, we have made several nice collections from very good sources. This will simplify your search, for indeed there are several sources, but the ones here will illustrate gratitude for the lives once led by our loved ones while also covering the pain the bereaved are experiencing.
We will, therefore, save you the hustle and the time, enabling you to attend to other tasks.
Just in case, however, you don’t like them, we have provided you with guidelines for creating your own piece as well.
Bring your creative self-close for starters.
Grab a pen and a paper.
Ensure you are calm and lay aside any form of worries
Start by recapturing the moments shared and writing them down, followed by what life is without them while inserting words of comfort and love.
Talk about their favourite colours, songs, how they responded to situations, how they talked and walked, their favourite phrases, or probably favourite foods and drinks. Think about everything to do with them, while writing them down.
Recite your poem while doing adjustments where necessary.
Let someone go through them, to enable you to know the depth of your poem, and do corrections as per the comments received.
Your poem should then be ready for use.
The whole idea is to get something you find soothing and tender to your heart, so sometimes do not give many thoughts to the comments, just go by what you feel regarding your choice of memorial poems.
You could brainstorm with someone close to you too, for sometimes going through memories might turn out emotional, so much that you are not able to do such processes by yourself.